P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”
So much this…
When I’m at my worst, just being invited to drive with you while you run errands is often enough to keep me from doing a complete downward spiral, but please don’t guilt people for not being able to hang out… It’s the worst feeling of shame for having depression in the first place on top of worrying that you will lose those you love for being a shitty friend.
oh wow all of this so so so much
I will also point out that depression comes with a lot of lethargy, which means if you ask you really are quite likely to get a no. When you’re at the bottom the smallest thing can seem like a lot of effort, so minimising that by arranging to meet close to them or offering a lift can make a huge difference. Side note: if they have anxiety, this doesn’t mean hanging out at their place - playing host is a super stressful thing for some.